appreciate you taking the time to post your excellent info. however, is it 'Paul' or 'Thomas' you mean to be addressin'?
for my part. i have no problem with the MBD stoves that i own. also, when i get a new stove, for any type of fuel, i go out on the deck to the gas grill. open the grill top. place the stove on the grill & learn to operate it there. don't trust myself to do this in the house. well, maybe if hard pressed, i would do it in the kitchen sink - but, not on the counter top. i'm a klutz and a schlamazel (i.e., a schlemiel with bad luck. just in case you don't know, a schlemiel is the the klutz who trips and spills his hot soup. a schlamazel is the guy he spills it on! - that's your fun with Yiddish lesson for the day - when i was growing up, my mother called me both.
you're absolutely right about putting the pot on too soon. i learned this by trial and error some time ago when i was attempting to make a stove. shortly thereafter, i learned of MBD, and thought why bother. i'm about 50 stove building generations behind Tinny, so for just a few bucks i could get a real stove - one that actually worked, unlike my first (and last) attempt to build a stove. mine was only good for answering the age old question "is this alcohol or water?" (as if there isn't a better way to ans. that ques - like, with my nose). you could use my "stove" to find out. pour some in & try to light it. if it lit, it was alcohol - but don't try to cook anything on it. just about the time the 1oz of alcohol was burning off, the stove was preheated sufficiently to allow a pot to be placed upon it.
there are at least two good videos of Tinny showing how to properly operate two of his stoves (one video is of a stove with a priming tray). it has a good view of the "blossom". don't put the pot on until it "blossoms". post back if you can't find it & i'll try to locate it for you. i FTP'd all of Tinny's videos to my HD some time ago, so i didn't "bookmark" the webpage.