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Elliott Wolin
(ewolin) - MLife

Locale: Hampton Roads, Virginia
RE: secrets out..." on 07/01/2014 11:37:00 MDT Print View

"25 yrs married and 30 yrs together this year and the wife and I still enjoy spending all our free time together. "

Same here except 33 years married and 41 years together. I've been hiking/backpacking without her just a few times, in each case she wanted to go but couldn't for some reason. Hiking together is an essential part of the experience, I have little desire to go alone or just with friends. Our next big backpacking trip will either be to the PCT in Washington, the Grand Canyon, Denali or Colorado. And one day we're going hiking/backpacing in New Zealand.

Similar remarks for my kids, all grown up now When they were young vacations without them seemed like they would feel empty, so we always went as a family (including 14 days on the Wonderland Trail around Mt. Rainier).

On the other hand, many of our friends relished the opposite.

jimmy b
(jimmyb) - F
41 yrs. on 07/01/2014 22:17:30 MDT Print View

Good going Elliot. Here's wishing you both many more years!


Edited by jimmyb on 07/01/2014 22:18:32 MDT.

Roger Dodger
(RogerDodger) - F

Locale: Wess Siide
another victim of the bait and switch on 07/02/2014 12:30:58 MDT Print View

when we were dating, we used to go hiking, mountain biking and car camping.
keeping it clean - there was romance.

then we got engaged for 2 years, and thought the wedding planning was a stress factor.

then we got married, going on 10 years, and now it's a veto if it's too hot, too cold, or when we drive 2 hrs and she sees an insect flying outside the car, she won't get out of the car, and we return home. Drama. Forget it - spare me the drama, she's not invited any more.

Just like this lady's advice on Youtube


I don't think it's particularly battle of the Sexes, as I have a few outdoorsy women friends that are paired up with homely domestic wimpy whiny men.

Whatever it is in the cosmos that attracts opposites... like a butterfly lured into the mouth of Venus flytrap plant.

Michael Gillenwater
(mwgillenwater) - M

Locale: Seattle area
Re: RE: secrets out..." on 07/02/2014 20:28:41 MDT Print View

I was sort of hiding my gear OCD from my wife, but not all that well. But when I started just carrying all our gear on the backpacking trips we took together, she quit complaining. She is not just grateful she does not have to carry anything and amazed that my pack still weighs so little with gear for both of us.

Roger Dodger
(RogerDodger) - F

Locale: Wess Siide
Re: Re: RE: secrets out..." on 07/02/2014 23:58:08 MDT Print View

Before we got married, her lady friends had a bachelorette party for her, and in those hen gatherings they play hen games, where they weigh every woman's purse and whomever has the heaviest purse wins some candy. One lady's purse weighed 45 lbs. she carried smaller purses and books in her big purse.

When I found out about it, I was amused, my wife was didn't find it funny though. For 45 lbs I carried a shelter, sleep system, gear, and a week's worth of food and a few gallons of water. (hey So Cal is dry in the summer)

and this lady carried 45 lbs daily, everywhere she went. My explanation that her neck and back pain are directly related to the lop sided 45 lbs. but they laughed at me, because I just don't understand the importance of purses.

Dan Magdoff
(highsierraguy) - F

Locale: Northern California
secrets out... on 07/03/2014 00:36:25 MDT Print View

great to hear about all the wonderful shared time ya'll have spent with your loved ones in the back country. I am pretty excited I have found a keeper!

christy cox
(ms.ruby.rox) - F

Locale: PNW
Not all girls suck!! on 07/24/2014 12:20:54 MDT Print View

I felt the same way when I took my boyfriend on a trip for the first time. He thought it was 'cute' when I quoted the weight of each item of outdoor clothing I own.... He's still around even though I"m a little nutty about it.

Timothy Barber
(tbarber4) - MLife

Locale: Bremerton
RE: "secrets out..." on 07/24/2014 13:40:57 MDT Print View

I've definitely gotten my share of strange looks while sitting on the floor, surrounded by a gear-splosion with my laptop and a gram scale.

David Thomas
(DavidinKenai) - MLife

Locale: North Woods. Far North.
Re: the flip side on 07/24/2014 14:25:23 MDT Print View

>"and (he) cannot fathom why one would need more than one sleeping bag or stove. "

So, Linda, he must have only one surf board, huh?

Linda Alvarez
(Liniac) - MLife

Locale: Southern California
good point! on 09/19/2014 22:45:58 MDT Print View

Ha! sorry, missed this post the first time around. Dave, that is a brilliant point! Nope, of course there is a full quiver. Thanks for the ammunition. I'm going to use that one!

David Thomas
(DavidinKenai) - MLife

Locale: North Woods. Far North.
Re: good point! on 09/19/2014 23:05:32 MDT Print View

I got into with a fish&wildlife trooper one time about why I had two dip nets (a big one for slow currents and a small one) but only one permit with me. I wanted to point out that, "You have both a pistol and shotgun - is that so you can shoot two citizens at once? or maybe you have two different tools for two different tasks?" but I long ago learned it's better to smile politely and nod my head.

Linda, here's more ammo:

>"or I'm caught updating "the spreadsheet." "

Like he doesn't check the surf report 7 times a day?!?

At least your BPL friends don't message you as soon as Montbell releases a new puffy that is 1.3 ounces lighter, while he gets texts about tasty waves anywhere along the coast.

Edited by DavidinKenai on 09/19/2014 23:09:21 MDT.