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Dan Magdoff
(highsierraguy) - F

Locale: Northern California
secrets out... on 06/27/2014 01:06:26 MDT Print View

Ha, so planning a 10 day backpacking trip with my girlfriend this summer. She asked if I had a list of what I bring...(duh). I showed her my list, which included all my weights. Secrets out about my OCD....quoted by her "you weigh your car key??!?" ANYWAY...after seeing a glimpse into my crazy side she still wants to date me (weird). BUT...the good news, I convinced her that we should make a list of all her backpacking gear and get everything weighed out :)

Owen McMurrey
(OwenM) - F - M

Locale: SE US
Re: secrets out... on 06/27/2014 02:34:42 MDT Print View

My girlfriend recently posted a pic of a nice campsite scene that had a pack and tent in it on my facebook, saying it made her think of me when she saw it, "...but I know the tent weighs too much, and the pack is all wrong."
Well, duh! :)

masculine über linear logical club
(prse) - MLife

Locale: Denmark
Re: secrets out... on 06/27/2014 04:54:40 MDT Print View

How can you still be dating if she's your girlfriend? When does the dating part stop?

Anyway, she sounds like a keeper when she can accept ultra nerdiness ;-)

Ken Thompson
(kthompson) - MLife

Locale: Behind the Redwood Curtain
Re: Re: secrets out... on 06/27/2014 07:16:18 MDT Print View

"How can you still be dating if she's your girlfriend? When does the dating part stop? "
Dating stops when they get engaged, if they do. Possible to date for 40 years.

Americans... you know.

Gordon Gray
(GordonG) - F

Locale: Front Range, CO
there you go on 06/27/2014 08:06:24 MDT Print View

Sounds like you're stoked with your woman there, Dan.

My wife has gone with me and didn't complain. She didn't prefer it but is willing to go again at some point.

Now, my oldest daughter on the other hand, is addicted. She gets all giggly when we are planning things out. I texted her a pic of the food I had prepped and she showed it off to others.

jerry adams
(retiredjerry) - MLife

Locale: Oregon and Washington
Re: Re: secrets out... on 06/27/2014 09:18:16 MDT Print View

You can go on date with wife

Women dig it when you say "it's a date". Makes them feel special or something.

masculine über linear logical club
(prse) - MLife

Locale: Denmark
Re: Re: Re: secrets out... on 06/27/2014 12:54:16 MDT Print View

Americans are funny :-)

jimmy b
(jimmyb) - F
Secret on 06/28/2014 12:27:26 MDT Print View

25 yrs married and 30 yrs together this year and the wife and I still enjoy spending all our free time together. We have done everything from trail riding MX bikes to sailing boats to backpacking together. Traveling all around the country enjoying the outdoors and seeing all the wonderful critters that we have seen is simply the best imaginable way I can think to spend my time. I see so many outdoor enthusiasts that go solo because the wife won't tag along. I can't imagine what that's like.

Nice thing is we have pretty much the same levels of endurance so we are able to hike our own hike and be together as well. Even if I could do 20 miles a day I would rather do less with the my wife.

So when you find someone who enjoys all your favorite things and puts up with the OCD, don't let her go. That's the making of a very happy life.

jimmyb

PS - someone show this to my wife. To many brownie points here to go to waste.

Dave U
(FamilyGuy) - F

Locale: Rockies
Re: Re: Re: secrets out... on 06/28/2014 12:35:09 MDT Print View

"Dating stops when they get engaged"

So do the massages

Eric Blumensaadt
(Danepacker) - MLife

Locale: Mojave Desert
SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERY re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 16:01:12 MDT Print View

After 46 years of marriage (this June 22) I finally read about this amazing discovery.

Scientists have found the substance that makes women "less romantic" when they are married.

It's called wedding cake ;o)

BTW, my wife only does Credit Card Camping. Best Western is one of her favorite campsites.

Edited by Danepacker on 06/29/2014 16:01:55 MDT.

Bob Bankhead
(wandering_bob) - MLife

Locale: Oregon, USA
SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 17:44:36 MDT Print View

Gentlemen, take note. Forty-Two years of marriage have proven the wisdom espoused. I don't care HOW heavy it is, my backpack ALWAYS contains dark chocolate when my wife hikes with me. It is the only repellent for the "BFH" aka the Bitch From Hell (although tonic and lime sometimes makes a decent substitute).

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Edited by wandering_bob on 06/29/2014 17:52:05 MDT.

Doug I.
(idester) - MLife

Locale: MidAtlantic
Re: SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 18:01:31 MDT Print View

I like marriage so much I've done it twice! (So far.....)

Billy Ray
(rosyfinch) - M

Locale: the mountains
Re: Re: SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 18:06:16 MDT Print View

I'm just monitoring this thread from a safe distance waiting for the women to weigh in,..... that should be interesting
billy

Will Newton
(Newts) - MLife

Locale: Bay Area
Let's compare notes on 06/29/2014 18:36:13 MDT Print View

Dan, I feel your pain.

GF: "Can we have s'mores?"
Will: [longer than is altogether natural pause]
GF: "Oh, right, because that would be like TWO OUNCES of marshmallows."
Will: [quietly] It's actually the chocolate that would weigh the most, I think"
GF: [leaves room]

I have since stopped saying dumbass things.

Perhaps there is a "Post your SO's responses to ULness (leaving aside gear spending reactions)" thread in the offing?

Edited by Newts on 06/29/2014 18:37:27 MDT.

Tom Kirchner
(ouzel) - MLife

Locale: Pacific Northwest/Sierra
Re: Re: Re: SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 20:07:52 MDT Print View

"I'm just monitoring this thread from a safe distance waiting for the women to weigh in,..... that should be interesting"

The silence is growing more ominous with every succeeding male post.

Justin Whitson
(ArcturusBear1) - F

Locale: BPL purgatory
Re: Re: Re: Re: SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/29/2014 20:24:38 MDT Print View

"The silence is growing more ominous with every succeeding male post."


For awhile i was just hearing silence which certainly was ominous, but after awhile, just barely in the background i thought i heard something... something eerily and disturbingly similar to the Jaws duhn duhn duhn duhn theme music.

Someone male, please hold me, i'm scared. Preferably you Jim, because i think so far you're the only one who will escape the terror to come, by association i may be left unscathed as well...

Edited by ArcturusBear1 on 06/29/2014 20:26:49 MDT.

Jim Colten
(jcolten) - M

Locale: MN
Re: SCIENTIFIC DISCOVERies re. MARRIAGE! on 06/30/2014 03:36:51 MDT Print View

The silence is growing more ominous with every succeeding male post.

That be called "the calm before the storm" .... be frightened my friend, be very frightened;-)

Linda Alvarez
(Liniac) - MLife

Locale: Southern California
the flip side on 06/30/2014 19:26:52 MDT Print View

My husband is a surfer and loves the outdoors. Before we got married he would do week long surf trips in Mexico regularly. I thought getting him into the backcountry with me would be a slam dunk. When we got engaged we even registered at REI for our wedding! Well, he went on exactly one trip, for one night with me. I think he figured that fulfilled his lifetime backpacking obligation contract to me :). We still call this the "big bait and switch."

He still surfs and loves the outdoors (as long as there is an ocean in spitting distance), but could not care less about backpacking and happily sends me off on trips with my friends. Happily except he REALLY hates my gear obsession. He regularly curses my eleventy boxes of camping and backpacking "crap" that is filling up "his" garage. He rolls his eyes every time my scale comes out, or I'm caught updating "the spreadsheet." and cannot fathom why one would need more than one sleeping bag or stove. "Because, this one is for summer trips, and that one..." "Nevermind, I realize I don't care..." I admit it, sometimes I have found myself sneaking gear into the house rather than listen to the snarking....

But it's all good--someone needs to stay home and watch the kids!

Sharon J.
(squark) - F

Locale: SF Bay area
Re: Let's compare notes on 06/30/2014 19:28:56 MDT Print View

"GF: "Oh, right, because that would be like TWO OUNCES of marshmallows."
Will: [quietly] It's actually the chocolate that would weigh the most, I think""

Maybe you should regard chocolate weight as the equivalent of whisky weight?

Ian B.
(IDBLOOM) - MLife

Locale: PNW
Re: Re: Let's compare notes on 06/30/2014 19:52:28 MDT Print View

So no kidding... a couple days before Father's Day, my wife calls me up and starts reading me the riot act before I can get a word in.

"I'm at REI and I HATE shopping for you because you're SO particular! I'm trying to buy you a hat for hiking but I'm not sure which one to get. I'm looking at a goretex one."

"Are you looking at the hats right now?"

"Yes"

"OK the one I want is called a Tilley Hat. It's right in the middle at the very top. They only have two left and unfortunately neither one is my size."

"Ugh!" (click)

I received a really nice Columbia fishing shirt for Father's Day this year.

Elliott Wolin
(ewolin) - MLife

Locale: Hampton Roads, Virginia
RE: secrets out..." on 07/01/2014 11:37:00 MDT Print View

"25 yrs married and 30 yrs together this year and the wife and I still enjoy spending all our free time together. "

Same here except 33 years married and 41 years together. I've been hiking/backpacking without her just a few times, in each case she wanted to go but couldn't for some reason. Hiking together is an essential part of the experience, I have little desire to go alone or just with friends. Our next big backpacking trip will either be to the PCT in Washington, the Grand Canyon, Denali or Colorado. And one day we're going hiking/backpacing in New Zealand.

Similar remarks for my kids, all grown up now When they were young vacations without them seemed like they would feel empty, so we always went as a family (including 14 days on the Wonderland Trail around Mt. Rainier).

On the other hand, many of our friends relished the opposite.

jimmy b
(jimmyb) - F
41 yrs. on 07/01/2014 22:17:30 MDT Print View

Good going Elliot. Here's wishing you both many more years!

jimmyb

Edited by jimmyb on 07/01/2014 22:18:32 MDT.

Roger Dodger
(RogerDodger) - F

Locale: Wess Siide
another victim of the bait and switch on 07/02/2014 12:30:58 MDT Print View

when we were dating, we used to go hiking, mountain biking and car camping.
keeping it clean - there was romance.

then we got engaged for 2 years, and thought the wedding planning was a stress factor.

then we got married, going on 10 years, and now it's a veto if it's too hot, too cold, or when we drive 2 hrs and she sees an insect flying outside the car, she won't get out of the car, and we return home. Drama. Forget it - spare me the drama, she's not invited any more.

Just like this lady's advice on Youtube

A GIRLFRIENDS GUIDE TO CAMPING
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVFnPFB6RsE

I don't think it's particularly battle of the Sexes, as I have a few outdoorsy women friends that are paired up with homely domestic wimpy whiny men.

Whatever it is in the cosmos that attracts opposites... like a butterfly lured into the mouth of Venus flytrap plant.

Michael Gillenwater
(mwgillenwater) - M

Locale: Seattle area
Re: RE: secrets out..." on 07/02/2014 20:28:41 MDT Print View

I was sort of hiding my gear OCD from my wife, but not all that well. But when I started just carrying all our gear on the backpacking trips we took together, she quit complaining. She is not just grateful she does not have to carry anything and amazed that my pack still weighs so little with gear for both of us.

Roger Dodger
(RogerDodger) - F

Locale: Wess Siide
Re: Re: RE: secrets out..." on 07/02/2014 23:58:08 MDT Print View

Before we got married, her lady friends had a bachelorette party for her, and in those hen gatherings they play hen games, where they weigh every woman's purse and whomever has the heaviest purse wins some candy. One lady's purse weighed 45 lbs. she carried smaller purses and books in her big purse.

When I found out about it, I was amused, my wife was didn't find it funny though. For 45 lbs I carried a shelter, sleep system, gear, and a week's worth of food and a few gallons of water. (hey So Cal is dry in the summer)

and this lady carried 45 lbs daily, everywhere she went. My explanation that her neck and back pain are directly related to the lop sided 45 lbs. but they laughed at me, because I just don't understand the importance of purses.

Dan Magdoff
(highsierraguy) - F

Locale: Northern California
secrets out... on 07/03/2014 00:36:25 MDT Print View

great to hear about all the wonderful shared time ya'll have spent with your loved ones in the back country. I am pretty excited I have found a keeper!

christy cox
(ms.ruby.rox) - F

Locale: PNW
Not all girls suck!! on 07/24/2014 12:20:54 MDT Print View

I felt the same way when I took my boyfriend on a trip for the first time. He thought it was 'cute' when I quoted the weight of each item of outdoor clothing I own.... He's still around even though I"m a little nutty about it.

Timothy Barber
(tbarber4) - MLife

Locale: Bremerton
RE: "secrets out..." on 07/24/2014 13:40:57 MDT Print View

I've definitely gotten my share of strange looks while sitting on the floor, surrounded by a gear-splosion with my laptop and a gram scale.

David Thomas
(DavidinKenai) - MLife

Locale: North Woods. Far North.
Re: the flip side on 07/24/2014 14:25:23 MDT Print View

>"and (he) cannot fathom why one would need more than one sleeping bag or stove. "

So, Linda, he must have only one surf board, huh?

Linda Alvarez
(Liniac) - MLife

Locale: Southern California
good point! on 09/19/2014 22:45:58 MDT Print View

Ha! sorry, missed this post the first time around. Dave, that is a brilliant point! Nope, of course there is a full quiver. Thanks for the ammunition. I'm going to use that one!

David Thomas
(DavidinKenai) - MLife

Locale: North Woods. Far North.
Re: good point! on 09/19/2014 23:05:32 MDT Print View

I got into with a fish&wildlife trooper one time about why I had two dip nets (a big one for slow currents and a small one) but only one permit with me. I wanted to point out that, "You have both a pistol and shotgun - is that so you can shoot two citizens at once? or maybe you have two different tools for two different tasks?" but I long ago learned it's better to smile politely and nod my head.

Linda, here's more ammo:

>"or I'm caught updating "the spreadsheet." "

Like he doesn't check the surf report 7 times a day?!?

At least your BPL friends don't message you as soon as Montbell releases a new puffy that is 1.3 ounces lighter, while he gets texts about tasty waves anywhere along the coast.

Edited by DavidinKenai on 09/19/2014 23:09:21 MDT.