Dean is an abrasive dude! But, he's a good dude.
He and I had a challenge (my fault for poorly describing something) and we had a discussion, but ultimately, if both parties represent themselves fairly and come to fair terms, Dean is happy to acquiesce and make a compromise.
He compromised, he was polite, and I would and have done business with him since then.
As I see it, Dean is picky about the condition of the items, which is his right as the buyer. Since it's "just a few dollars" I think it's fair for the OP to pay it because the items DO look like they were misrepresented. It would be good form for the original seller to compensate Dean fully and take care of his sale.
This is not a big deal, and an opportunity to avoid conflict by taking responsibility for the items you're selling.
So, as I see it, Dean shouldn't have to pay return shipping and everyone needs to calm down. Accusations of "Character attacks" and "BS" are way out of line- this is a friendly forum and everyone just wants to help eachother. Keep the drama in emails if you feel the need to fight.