Jennifer and friends,
I seem to detect something like anger, maybe bitterness, in your posts. A little counter-intuitive, because it's the patients not the treaters who do the suffering.
First, whatever you think about the quality of medical treatment, doctors are seeking to use the best evidence available to treat us. Like any other profession, there are great ones, good ones, mediocre ones and yes, bad ones. And that can vary from day to day depending on a whole lot of factors. So, as with any other professional, the first challenge is to find at least a good one, because the quality of your life, and eventually your life itself, will probably depend on it. That's not fair, but that's the way it is.
If you have a physician who's not a bozo, I recommend taking whatever they say very seriously, and if there is a conflict, yes, even more seriously than other healthcare professionals. I say this because in my own former profession, I studied hard for many years, taking some knocks that live with me still every day. What I have found is that there are many in fields related to my profession, but who have not undergone anything close to the extent of training and experience that I did. Logic suggests, and so it turns out, that with less rigorous, extensive and intensive training, they are not as qualified to treat a problem. This is fine, if they stay within the scope of what they are qualified to perform. Unfortunately, that is not always the case, and those are the ones I often hear putting down members of my former profession.
I suspect that's why I tend to be critical. Maybe it's different in the healthcare professions, but I suspect not.