I wasn't trying to be critical. Almost all of us here on BPL have a focus on reducing weight while being warm, dry and safe. How each individual does it is different. I did say it is bad idea to just go out and buy a bunch of gear.
Reducing weight (safely) is an ongoing process that takes time, if done properly. And I agree with your statement that more time in the back country is showing you how to refine and lighten your load... that is the answer.
At the top of the BPL main pages is a saying, "Pack less. Be more." I disagree with this 100%. To me it is "Hike more. You will become more." If people hike more they will figure out the less part, which is driven by experience.
One of the problems here on BPL, is the evangelical preaching of light. I am against that mindset, however if someone asks for opinions I have no problem giving mine.
For more thoughts on the religion, Maybe we should mind our own business.
Backpacking isn't about gear, it is about the wilderness experience. If the gear is too heavy for the individual, they will figure it out.
Anyway keep hiking and share your journey of "refining and lightening." It takes time, but the focus should be on the fun you are having on the trail, not the fun of playing with a scale.