Nancy: my bad if I was unclear. (1) it is the Internet and no one not on the R2R2R Grand Canyon trip has ever seen me smile and (2) I've been on 22 flights for business and volunteer reasons in the last two weeks so, like now, I post from an iPhone at 33,000 feet and can't reread and edit my whole post on one screen. But, again, my bad.
About me: straight guy. Married. Two kids. Nerd. Politically very liberal in a very conservative town. Not afraid, though, to start a PFLAG chapter locally, advocate for non-discrimination policies before the school board (unsuccessful) and (successfully) pass non-discrimination policies at the fourth largest employer within 150 miles (I'm on the BOD). I'm such a fricking ally,
I perhaps am clueless to inaccurate perceptions I can create. And I say true stuff like "I've dated more lesbians (unknowingly) than most out women do in a decade." that people who don't know me take the wrong way.
About that situation: my wife (an MD) and my SIL (another MD) took the unpaid and, I thought, helpful task of gathering a ton of medical supplies and information prior to a private Colorado River raft trip through GCNP. They sent out forms about medical history because that's what docs do. If you're unconscious, they'd still like to provide appropriate care and not, you know, kill you due to a drug allergy or unknown, underlying medical condition.
Everyone seemed to take it that way and emailed forms to the docs and I NEVER SAW THEM. I never do. My wife and I have these annoying-to-me conversations where she vents about something that went wrong at the hospital while using only non-gendered pronouns and non-age-specific terms.
But I knew one guy (out of 16 people) hadn't returned the form. He was the manscaped guy. Who'd most recently been to the GCNP at age 30 WITH HIS MOTHER. And he showed up with another twink guy. And in a crowd of lesbian oarmen (to use an oxymoronic phrase) and liberal straights, he was the only one to not be out (be out, I include LGBTQXYZ, whatever). So maybe I was inaccurately stereotyping him or maybe after decades in SF/Berkeley and living in Northampton, I have a bit of gaydar. That assessment is left for the reader. Of course his orientation has no bearing on medical treatment. But his serum status could very well have a lot of bearing on his health and need for health care. And my strong sense is that a closeted guy is less likely to disclose his serum status than someone who is more self-accepting.
To be continued . . .
Okay, I'm back at ground level. A mile high, but at ground level at another airport with contaminated groundwater (DEN).
My point was that telling your companions about your health issues can help YOU. If there'd been a 300-pound women who refused sweets, was constantly thristy, pricking her finger many times a day and hadn't disclosed anything, I'd infer she likely had poorly controlled diabetes and I'd wonder WTF she wouldn't let the people most able to help in an emergency help her more. But there wasn't that person along on any trip I've been on. The person who may well have been the sickest person hadn't imparted any info to anyone. Mostly, that's to his deteriment. But while both docs along had trained for years in SF and are totally up on universal precautions, sure, anyone would be even more careful if they know someone is pos.