Just came back to this thread after a long absence. Wow! What a range of thoughts and emotions it's put me through. In that way very interesting thread.
Joking is really hard to get right for everyone. Especially across cultures.
Part of what I think joking does is alleviate the pain of unhappiness that people go through. Like Lynn said, there are a lot of unhappy relationships. What's kind of paradoxical is that having Lynn ask whether people are in happy or unhappy relationships is not going to get an even response here. Of course the ones in happy relationships are going to reply... they have nothing to lose. But the ones in unhappy relationships are not going to say anything, in part because it will spoil the mood of this thread. I was struck by the sheer silence of those in unhappy relationships. I will say this... I am in an unhappy relationship. I love her very deeply... but she is a serious bipolar alcoholic with an awful childhood. Can anyone say anything funny about that? (actually a bit of laughter would be a big stress reliever! (^ J ^)/" ). My point is that there is a lot of history behind all the members' BPL personas that the rest of us don't know. That affects how we react to what is written here. Do I feel sorry for myself? No.
Cesar has some very good points. I respect him a lot for being courageous enough to withstand the backlash and say what he believes, publicly, without making excuses or making it easier for himself. I've been through a lot of what he talks about as a Mexican (Black/ Filipino/ German growing up in Japan where foreigners are still very much lambasted and discriminated against everyday). When you've been ridiculed by a bigger group most of your life there just comes a point when you say, "Enough is enough!", and the stereotypes just don't seem funny anymore. But at the same time... how in the world can you make ANY jokes without conjuring up the typologies? That's what joking is all about!
Franco... about 99.9% of Japanese have never eaten whale in their life, most have never seen whale meat, and many completely disagree with whale hunting. Another media inflated stereotype. Most Japanese very much object to, in their perception, westerners telling everyone else what is right and wrong, especially since for Japanese it is hard to compete in having their opinion heard if most of what is in the media is in English, and very few people understand Japanese (and VERY few western journalists can properly speak Japanese). So much misunderstanding comes out what western journalists interpret about what Japanese think, rather than having the Japanese express their own opinions themselves. Most Japanese are not the monsters that the media portrays them as.
Lynn, I think I'm in love with you! (no, I know I don't have a chance in whale's frog eating orgy!) Not only do you have a way of saying everything right, but you and your partner love belching and farting! My kind of way of laughing and having fun!
Anyone else notice that the word "gay" slipped past everyone's filters? Penis, too. Do we now have revolution at BPL.com?
And a parting gift, about partnership that is well orchestrated:
A married couple is travelling by car from Victoria to Prince George .
Being seniors, after almost eleven hours on the road, they were too tired to continue and decided to take a room. But, they only planned to sleep for four hours and then get back on the road.
When they checked out four hours later, the desk clerk handed them a bill for $350.00.
The man explodes and demands to know why the charge is so high. He told the clerk although it's a nice hotel; the rooms certainly aren't worth $350.00 for four hours. Then the clerk tells him that $350.00 is the 'standard rate'. He insisted on speaking to the Manager.
The Manager appears, listens to him, and then explains that the hotel has an Olympic-sized pool and a huge conference centre that were available for us to use.
"But we didn't use them," the husband said.
"Well, they are here, and you could have," explained the Manager.
The Manager went on to explain that the couple could also have taken in one of the shows for which the hotel is famous. "We have the best entertainers from New York , Hollywood , and Las Vegas perform here," the Manager says.
"But we didn't go to any of those shows," the husband said.
"Well, we have them, and you could have," the Manager replied.
No matter what amenity the Manager mentioned, the husband replied, "But we didn't use it!"
The Manager is unmoved, and eventually the husband gave up and agreed topay. As he didn't have the check book, he asked his wife to write the check.
She did and gave it to the Manager.
The Manager is surprised when he looks at the check. "But ma'am, this is made out for only $50.00."
"That's correct. I charged you $300.00 for sleeping with me," she replied.
"But I didn't!" exclaims the Manager.
"Well, too bad, I was here, and you could have."
Don't mess with senior citizens..... They didn't get there by being stupid.