> open to suggestions for a 2 person, 3 season tent that is better.
My first choice would be a tarptent double rainbow. It's a single wall shelter that is less than 1/2 the weight of your current tent. I would also recommend checking out the Six Moon Designs Europa. These shelters are more tent link than tarp like. If you really want a double walled tent, you find find numerous options that are 4lbs or less.
I would recommend planning your meals so you only need to bring one of your pots. For two people, 1.3l is typically large enough.
The Orikaso stuff is pretty nifty. You might consider if you need both a plate and a bowl. On group trips, I have found the the large size bowl works pretty well by itself (e.g. no need for plate). On solo trips just eat out of your pot.
You didn't have a cup or mug which is fine if you only drink water. If you want tea, coffee, or some flavors drink you will want something. I switch between a plastic cup from my original boy scout mess kit, a Styrofoam bowl which holes around 10oz (we had extras from an ice cream social), or a plastic bowl that some instant noodles came in.
Unless you do a lot of winter camping, or extended trips where your stove is being used to cook for 4+ people, I would recommend considering returning your dragonfly (or ebay it) and pick up a decent canister stoves. You might actually end up with money in your pocket, and just saved yourself 1/2 lb of weight.
I would second the lexan over titanium spork. Why? Lexan won't scratch your pots. Titanium can.
When the Aloksaks wear out (they will pretty quickly) I would suggest a small number of sil-nylon stuff sacks.
Drop the emergency blanket.. you are carrying shelter and a slepping bag
I would switch from the camelbak 3L to a 2l playtpus because it's lighter and because most trip (at least the ones I go on) 3L is too much to carry.
Are the clothing listed what you are wearing and carrying? I am assuming that is true, because a single part of parts should be good enough.
Personally I would only bring on light tee shirt and one pair of underwear. They will dry quickly... and you can wear other things if you need to wash them out.
I would bring rain pants if the temp was going to be below around 50F. I would bring insulating tights if the temp was going to drop below 30F.
> ankle socks
Lots of choices. By several and try them.
> trekking shoe that is a step down for a hiking boot
I would check out trail runners such as those made by Montrail, Inov-8, Soloman, and New Balance. Feet are very different. Find what works for you,
> lightweight basic featured polar fleece jacket
No such thing. A down or high loft synthetic jacket will weight less than 1/2 an equivalently warm fleece, and pack down to 1/3 or less the size. If you don't might a kit, you could get a jacket for around $50, or try to get a high loft sythetic jacket on an end of season close out for around $70 (watch for patagonia memorial day sale... look for a micro puff jacket or vest).
If you want to go with a fleece get a decent 200wt from target, lands end, etc. Should be around $20.
Add warm hat... on colder trips, bring something that will keep your neck warm and protected.
You might want to look at my Outdoor Clothing Recommendations
Add a compass / map
Add a small knife
Add TP or some sort of wipes
Add a camera if you want pictures