i think im clear on what you are doing & want to achieve, but dont really see the point, it might be over complicating something that doesnt need to be complicated.
for starters, gloves arnt the only thing that you can lift a hot pot with.
i have 2 evernew pots, neither being the 1.3L (i guess this is what you are looking at), but i cant see how bending the handle of a spork is going to fit into this brand, unless this size pot has a different set up to mine or you have an interesting shaped spork or maybe you are willing to risk the pot doing some kind of chop shop job on it to make something fit.
if you are going to bend some ti stakes, its probably best if they are the same diameter as the pots original handle. bending ti probably means heating it up which could weaken it & changing its shape may make it less ideal for use as a stake.
you also mention saving 2oz by not using the lid or handles (no lid may negate any weight savings by using more fuel). may i suggest at least a foil lid, this should lead to less fuel consumption (hopefully less weight) unless you are using a wood fire, in which case wont matter as much.
just my opinion, but bascially, i would say... k.i.s.s (keep it stupid simple :^})...keep the handle on, maybe use ya sweat rag as a pot lifter, & get some foil for a lid.