A fairly thoughtful and mostly reasonable post (strays a bit, methinks, into unnecessary near-haranguing, but nobody's perfect...;-).
It is, to me, however, a fascinating choice of Cleaver's comment in '68 with which to end your post. He was advocating breaking all kinds of rules at the time! You coaxed a smile out of me with that!
While I agree that there are processes in place to have unfair, unwarranted or unpopular regulations changed (I mentioned two), often they are realistically unattainable by most citizenry, for what that's worth.
"One of the things that motivated me to take part in this thread is that I am a parent that strives to "raise them right". One way I attempt to accomplish that very thing is by setting boundaries for them and I use rules to set those boundaries. You can bet your merino beanie that I do not expect that they decide for themselves which of those rules are worthy of their compliance."
Not sure it's a completely fair analogy, but I'll go along with it. I certainly, I think, understand the bigger point you're trying to make. I've never had kids (most people who know me thank me for this often.....), but I do have employees (nearly the same thing). I expect them to do what's right. That's not always what the rules say, though. In many such circles, and certainly in mine, a common phrase is "it's better to ask forgiveness than permission."
As I said in my previous post, sometimes you have to break a few rules to effect change, there seems no other way. But then again, I've never been a strict rule follower (a character flaw since birth, I'm afraid). My world is very, very grey - never breaking rules is simply too black and white for me.
Lastly, breaking the law makes you a criminal. Yes, technically, I agree. But there's a pretty impressive list of such scofflaws - Ghandi, MLK, Jesus ..... I have no issue with being on that list..... ;-)