Yeah, I'm in the balancing act/failure to commit mode, too. I am gram-shaving and cutting weight wherever I can, and have always believed in using the lightest gear...that works well. However, I've always tempered that with a willingness to use gear that weighs more if it works better or I simply have some emotional attachment to how it works.
So, I've cut my stove, sleeping bag, cooking kit, water containers, boots, upper body insulation and sleeping pad weight by several pounds, but not with truly UL stuff because I want more size, more capacity and more comfort. The inflatable pad comes to mind... I still carry a 4lb backpack, a giant pile of redundant firestarters, spare parts and tools, folding stool and an old Bibler tent because I like them and am willing to carry the weight in order to enjoy myself and "be prepared".
So, it's a tradeoff: shave weight, trim gear, but with an eye for comfort and saving of cash to fill the tank.