I don't like getting burnt by my alcohol stove either, so I keep a few birthday candles in my kit. Light the candle, then use the candle to light the alcohol stove. Also serves double duty as firestarter if need be.

I use a Mini Bic for general purpose fire starting with a mini Firesteel as emergency backup.

I agree with the ferro rod/firesteel method. I often use a mini-bic, but in winter especially, I find it difficult to light many stoves with it, especially ones with deep "wells". I've many a burnt thumb from trying.

Pretty much never a bad idea to rely on a firesteel, although I always carry both. Redundant? Yep.

I use matches. Below freezing you can drop the lit match, stick first, into the fuel reservoir and it acts like a wick to warm and then ignite the fuel.