Thanks for the feedback guys! To answer some questions...
Right now I'm hiking in Ohio/Kentucky, but plan on moving to Colorado in the near future. Sometimes the shelter is for me and my wife, some of my issues have been finding a lightweight tent that works for me because I'm tall. Probably not ready for a tarp. Spiders freak me out too much. I don't really have camping experience in the rockies - should I be looking for a freestanding tent?
I'll also investigate a lighter pack and like the idea of the Thermawrap. Some things i had to guess on the weight (like the first aid kit), realistically it probably weighs less than 9 oz. The Nalgenes gotta go. For solo hikes, maybe a smaller pot and homemade alcohol stove.
The consumables can be ignored, since that will all depend on the trip.
Again, I appreciate the help, there is a great community here!