I purchased a pad from Bender sometime mid January and he gave me a two-week window of when he was going to complete it. Obviously it's been a little more than that, but I don't mind.
The man obviously has to be busy, from what it sounds like on this thread. I mean, there have been six or seven orders mentioned in this thread alone, placed within the last month and a half. Making these pads isn't a simple task, even for somebody who has done it multiple times before, I'm sure.
When I first emailed Bender, it took him a couple days to respond, but when he did, he answered all my questions and clarified everything for me. I placed the order and I've just been sitting patiently like a good boy waiting for my present to arrive in the mail, lol.
I had an experience on the gear swap forums one time where I purchased something from somebody, and never got an email or pm about shipping, never received product, etc. I thought the guy took my money and ran (and so did a few others on the site who had also purchased something from him). Well, I posted something on his forum publicly asking him to respond, and I caught hell from other BPL members for not "chilling out" and giving him more time.
Turns out, they were right. He had suffered a medical emergency and was in the hospital, his wife emailed us and sent out our packages. I have that email saved in my inbox with a star on it to remind me to be more patient and let people do what they need to do :)
I think all of us waiting would benefit from this same knowledge. Do what you've got to do Bender, and perhaps look into hiring somebody as so many of the people here have suggested (that is, if you have the funds).
Hope this helps!