It's worth noting that the GoLite Shangri-La 5 really isn't just 2 lb 14 oz if you need to include the floor and bug netting your wife wants. You'll either need the SL-5 nest or a setup with the footprint and some noseeum sewn in or something draped/rigged by yourself.
Weights for the current SL-5:
- main body: 29 oz
- pole weight: 13 oz
- stake weight: 4 oz
- nest: 43 oz
- floor: 31 oz
SL-5 w/ nest: 89 oz (5 lb 9 oz)
SL-5 w/ floor: 77 oz (4 lb 13 oz)
Don't get me wrong, those weights are pretty good as far as I'm concerned- beats lugging around a 15-20 lb "backpacking" tent. I saw some 20 lb 4-6 person family tents at REI that had carrying cases which were packs unto themselves, which got a chuckle out of me.
I'm also looking at a 4-5 person backpacking shelter- the only two candidates I've found so far are the GoLite Shangri-la 5 and the Tarptent Hogback. The now discontinued Golite SL-4 and 6 would also work. Leaning away from the Hogback, mostly based on square footage.
Hadn't seen the bigger Oware pyramid tarps before- looks like I need to take a closer look.
The SL-5 was especially appealing as we should be able to use it for both backpacking and car camping- probably skip the neset when backpacking, but use it (and external rigging or poles) for car camping.
For a family tent like this, I'm personally a lot less picky than most folks around here- I'd be happy with anything 10 lbs or under that provided at least 75 square feet. Seems to me that a tipi/pyramid would be the way to go.
I'd love to know of other options- next summer it'll (hopefully!) be a little one, our (then) 3 year old, and mom and dad, and splitting into multiple 1-2 person tents isn't much of an option for us at this point.
(edit: my apologies- don't mean to hijack the thread!)