A few years ago I hiked the GR20 in Corsica. It is one of the toughest hikes in Europe, it follows the mountainous ridge of the island, and is very steep and rugged.
At the end of the first day I was exhausted, ditching stuff from my backpack - it was my first proper hike, and I had taken what I thought I needed, but I had done very little research - I must have carried well over 50lbs that day.
A few years have passed, many more successful treks, and a much better understanding of what I need to be comfortable in the field, have helped me reduce my pack weight.
I have been reading this website for at least 3 years, but I only subscribed recently to ask some theoretical questions, as my backpacking style is changing somewhat to accommodate the girlfriend.
Overall, I have no doubt that people on here have helped me. Thank you.
I hike 3 seasons in the UK and Europe, mostly 3 day durations, anything from 10-25 miles a day.
I am very comfortable with my 14lb base weight - it will only get lighter when I have need to replace a worn or broken item, and I don't see that happening any time soon.
I don't think I'd ever be interested in going sub 10lbs, although I realise my choice of torch and toiletries wouldn't make it onto most folks gear lists. I am happy being Light, rather than Ultralight.
What baffles me is the slightly more zealous side of gram counting, which I expect prompted your post.
Wiping your butt with your hand to save carrying toilet paper - that's just wrong.
Full Skin Out weight - might be relevant if I spent my days naked, and needed to plan for the shock of wearing trail clothes and carrying stuff in my pockets.
Sadly, I spend my days in jeans and a shirt or a suit, both of which weigh more than my trail apparel - plus I normally carry a laptop and sundries with me in a bag.
Advocating ultralight and SUL gear to newbies - the gear is not cheap - +$200 for a backpack, for example. These specialist items, by their very nature, are not as durable as mainstream equivalents, and require experience and care to last the distance.
I too have visions of folks sitting, round the clock by their computers, ready to rip into someone who posts a gear list weighing more than an envelope. But I know it's not really like that.
Lists are very "bloke" things to make, and I've made a few lists in my time. But there are two sides to backpacking, the theoretical and the practical - I vote for the practical - getting out there, seeing deer, birds, streams, breathtaking views etc, etc.
This website is here for a reason, and it's a good one. Dip into posts, use the search function, consider the many different opinions and decide what works for you - as someone said, hike you own hike - if you take everything literally, then yes, I suppose it could ruin backpacking.