Thanks for your 'critique'. FWIW, here's an explaination of the choices I've made.
I consciously chose to use the original lid for a number of reasons. I like its durability. I like that the lid is one piece and cleans easily. I've tried various knobs, tabs, loops, and wires on top and prefer none. I like how it protects the pot and contents when stored. I like the way the compact, smooth 'package' stores in my pack. I don't mind the .2 oz penalty.
I like the metal bowl for a second person because it fits well, its durable, I can use it for cooking, it cleans and dries easily and can be sterilized on the stove.
I like the stability of a pot stand. A cone shaped stand/windscreen like the TD Caldera has the ultimate stability. Putting a pot directly on a pop/beer can stove has the least. I've knocked over a few meals and prefer a little more stability. I chose a simple, lightweight wire stand as a compromise. I also prefer a stove that doesn't require a warm-up period before putting a pot over it.
Most of the time, I'll accept the weight penalty of the pot grabber. I have better luck removing the lid from the pot or the pot from the fire one handed with the grabber than with a gloved hand. It's easier for me to reach inside the windscreen with the grabber than my gloved hands. Less chance of scalding a finger or scorching a glove. As a kit for two, it's still pretty light.
My choices will change over time, but for today, I'm satisfied.
Just my 2 cents,