Your list does not look that bad, but you need to ditch the heavy items.
At 32 oz of food per day x 3 = 6# + 2L of h20 +4#, plus a little fuel so around 8 pounds total.
YOu should be able to hit 20-25# total pretty easy. Just go through your list and start cutting the heavy items first. I would do that first. You can probably cut 2-3# there right off the bat at little expense.
The big 4 could be lighter. Go for a 2# pack, 2# bag, 9-14 oz pad, 2# tent or tarp and bivy/bug tent.
My big 4 right now is 40 pack, 46 tent, 31 bag, 14+4 for pad so I am not far behind at 8.5#. I am modding my tent, new lighter pack and just those 2 items will get me to 6.5#. If I go the gatewood cape and bug tent, with a small neoair and a 2oz GG foam pad I would be at 5.2#, and maybe less rain gear which is another 10oz but its more $ and slightly less comfort so...
ITs all the little cuts and changes here and there that add up. It take $ though so you can do just replace one item at a time.
SUL take more $ since everything is high end, cuben, etc.
If its a 3 day you can live with a 8-16 oz alcohol cook kit for about 3 - 4 oz and its almost free. That would be a good start and would save a couple of oz.
Eventually get rid of the fleece and replace it with something lighter.
7 oz flashlight must go.
Personally I dont count anything, worn every day, in my pocket like a knife or a lighter etc. I want to know what is hanging on my shoulders day in and day out. Its useful to know what the complete weight is though.
Probably the reason I like moderate winter hiking. I am wearing most of my clothing.
Frameless Pack - 30.5 oz w/Hefty Bag Liner - not bad
30 Degree Sleeping Bag - 48 oz - should be 32 oz
Self Inflating Sleeping Pad - 24.4 oz - could be much lighter, but more $. A used short prolite and a blue pad would weigh 13 oz
That would cost about $50-60 (blue foam about $7 at walmart) and would save you 11.4 oz off the bat.
Solo Tent - 47.7 oz (w/ 6 stakes & poles)- Tarptent would save you about 1# but expensive at $220.
A gatewood cape and a bug tent and or bivy would save almost 2#. Again expensive a $240 unless used.
A tarp and bivy is cheap. If you do an open pyramid setup with an 5x9 poncho/tarp takes one pole add a tyvek bivy sack, that would save a lot of weight. 9 oz for the tarp/ poncho at $45. 7 oz for a MYOG 1.25 tyvek bivy at $5 per yard from quest. You can glue that.
That would save you about 43 oz off your tent and raingear for about $60-70. Carry a garbage bag for an intermediate rain gear, IE setup.
Tyvek bivy is a easy, cheap and good myog project.
I have that exact poncho tarp and its a good one. Also have a tyvek bivy and it works. YOu might want to start off with a campmor UL 8x10 tarp first for more coverage.
Cooking: [ 5.7 oz.] Could be 3-4 oz. Use a easy mac plastic cup to make coffe - .6 oz, select choice plastic soup container 1 oz.
Clothing in pack: [ 2.34 lbs.] Does not look too bad.
Flashlight - 7 oz - lighter
Notebook w/ Duct Tape Pen - 2.75 oz - lighter. 2 pc of WP paper and a micro pencil. I carry a pen in my pocket 24/7
Cord - 50 ft. - 2 oz - triptease is lighter I think.
AquaMira - 1.1 oz - mine weighs 2 oz. You need a water dipper of some sort unless you are using it on top of your bottle. A 1 qt plastic bottle bottom works. Also need to treat it with clorine depending on where you are. MSR sweet water 2 oz.
Glow Stick - 0.7 oz - out
Consumables: [ 10.11 lbs.] - Sounds about right. You could ditch the hose as mentioned above and just go with a 1L and 1 2L platy and save a few oz. Also you could use a 1 oz 1 L water bottle, free, almost
*Survival Kit* - sounds good if you really need it for 3 days. I read a good response on a question the other day about survival and med packs on the AT. The responder said he carries only a quik clot kit and a wrap, IE he can hike out or call out if he has a minor problem. I do think an anti diareal and a few bandaids and a striker is a good idea.