wow you guys are funny: chocolate, wine, and no bugs. add a spa treatment ...and this sounds like a cruise vacation to me:)
I wanted to make two points. First, i guess i'm a little shocked to see that here in the US, where women aspire to be like men in every aspect of life, you are making such gender specific suggestions on hiking (this is from a viewpoint of non-US born woman). Second, i really think both men and women have similar problems outdoors, and their ability and desire to pursue these experiences is really a matter of taste. Both men and women have varying degrees of attachment to outdoor activities, so lets not write this off to gender only and say because she is a girl lets keep her pack weight low! Everyone deserves a light pack, good companionship, mutual respect and understanding of one's abilities, in addition to a piece of yummy chocolate. I personally was the one who introduced my husband to multi-day lightweight backpacking, and i also deal with "adjustment" issues, despite the fact that he is a guy and i'm a woman (according to your theory this should be opposite?). However, i don't think giving him a gun or bringing a bottle of whiskey would fix it! And my last thought... You can't just dress up something and make it right, no matter what your efforts are, if your loved one lacks a pure inner desire to pursue a certain activity, not on the same "wave" with you, and/or doesn't want to please you, sometimes, you just have to accept the fact they never will. My husband loves hiking, however he doesn't care about climbing mountains in the snow and ice, regardless of the weight of his ice-axe. and i accept that.